Here is a stunning plane to consider:
I think it will carry 511# so that is 210 (Funny that is my weigh too) + the misses 110 + 120 fuel (20 gallons)= leaves about 70 pounds whatever else you need. CG permitting of course.
My "all in" budget for my airplane is about 90K (depending on the stock market) plus $ 700 per month. I'm not saying I will go out and buy a 90K airplane, that is very short sighted.. I want to buy a 50K airplane and have 40K in reserve in case (when) I run into issues.
The day my lovely wife will get in a plane with me I'm going out to buy a used Cirrus.